Getting married used to be a simple thing. You lived in a village all your life, and when it was time to find a spouse, Aunt Sadie, the village matchmaker was only too happy to oblige.
The village is now the world. Aunt Sadie is an online dating site that fulfills a similar role, but in a less quirky way. If you don’t like the looks and sounds of someone, you move on. After all he was only a photograph with a few descriptive lies, not a real person. I suppose the same happened back in the village, but in that instance you ran the risk of bumping into him the next day at the county hog races.
Finding a mate is not for the fainthearted. It takes finesse, timing, the right circumstances to come together, and plain sheer grit.
I asked a friend of mine, a perennial bachelor who continues to comb the online dating scene for hopefuls, what he does when he is hurt and in pain over not finding the right person. “I tell myself God loves me much more than all these losers,” he said with a laugh.
“Even at your age when you behave like a dejected 17-year old?” I asked.
“We’re all 17-years old inside. And it doesn’t get any better as you get older either,” he said.
And he ought to know. He’s been looking for a wife forever.
The truth is I know many couples who met online and they have happy marriages.
It’s the ones who are still hopeful that I feel for.
Sometimes the search is aggravating and unbearable.